Yes, you’re too hot… but please stop.

Okay, I can’t put off writing about it anymore. It is the elephant in the room. Well, you know… the elephant in the room in my head that is filled with Benjamin.

If you’ve spent any amount of time on this blog you know that I am head-over-heels, crazy in love with Benjamin, completely immersed in his legacy, and totally obsessed with his life. Nothing he did will ever change that. And you might think that *I* would think that every little thing he did is sheer perfection. And for the most part, every little thing he did is perfect… but there’s this one thing.

This one thing that he did. It makes my cheeks burn with embarrassment.

It’s the video for “Too Hot to Stop.” I can’t STAND it.benjamin-orr-too-hot-to-stop-elektra

There. I said it.

Before you decide to hate me at least hear me out!

Benjamin in black leather? Yes! And you can’t unzip that jacket far enough, buddy. That Hawaiian tan? Bring it on. Cameos by David and Greg? Supportive friends warm my heart. The song is great and I gleefully listen to it over and over. But please…

Someone PLEASE give my man a guitar!!!

I’m just going to lay it all out here. Benjamin, bless his heart, certainly seems to be giving it his best shot… but he looks SO uncomfortable in this. His makeup is awful. His Neil Diamond dance moves are painful to watch. The lip-synching is a disaster. And I feel like I can tell pretty much every point where they stopped filming and Someone said, “how about you dance like this” and “why don’t you move over this way” and “try throwing your arms up” and “now give us the smoldering look.” At no time does he look to me like he’s truly enjoying himself.

Up until I decided to write this review I had only watched this video twice. You can imagine my expectations the first time I clicked ‘play’, can’t you? Can’t you??? Well, it was like a sucker punch. I couldn’t have been more dismayed if he had come out with his head shaved and wearing Steven Tyler’s tights.

I wanted to love it so much! It’s BENJAMIN, for crying out loud! I watched it a second time, thinking that maybe it would move into that grace-filled category of “it’s so bad, it’s funny and I love it” – but no, just more trauma. And in spite of my dear friend Jen’s attempts to get me to give it another go, I just couldn’t do it. I refused to pull it from the corner where I had shoved it, deep in the back of my mind, and managed to ignore it for a while… and yet here I am. I can’t seem to let it go.

Now come on. Think back to every performance you’ve ever seen of Benjamin Orr — and I’m talking about before this video *and* after.  That cool demeanor, those sensual facial expressions… how he could define ‘rock star’ just by standing there, working that bass or guitar and mesmerizing you with his voice, and then turn your knees to noodles with his brilliant smile. This persona fit him perfectly; he was in his element. It was obvious that he was comfortable there; I believe it came very naturally to him.

The Benjamin Orr of the 2H2S video is just *not* him. It seems like a parody, a joke.  Whose idea was this? Please don’t tell me it was the 80s and that’s what everybody did. This was Someone’s concept *for* Benjamin but not *about* Benjamin; it was Someone trying to push a rock star peg into a cheesy hole. It was Someone trying to make my man into something he wasn’t.

But I will say this for him, he was a gamer. However uncomfortable he may have been he pushed through and made it happen; made Someone’s dream come true. And yes, I’m definitely convinced that this was NOT his idea… because he just looks SO wrong.


I read an article from The Boston Herald, dated January 24, 1987, about the making of the 2H2S video. Most of the column inches are spent talking about the complex state-of-the-art lighting used for the ‘futuristic’ backdrop on the set. There is one quote from Benjamin; he says this: “My only idea was to have the video have something to do with outer space. That’s what seems to capture attention the most these days, so I wanted to see if we could go out there for a while — or at least fool the camera into thinking we had.”

My darling, nerdy, love-of-my-life, I wish you had been a just little more opinionated as to how this was all going to play out…

Not sure I can really find my usual little tidbits to gush about. Certainly that smile at 3:30 melts my heart. I know we all adore Benjamin, and I accept that not everyone feels the same way about the 2H2S video as I do, so I’ll let you watch and add your own heartthrob moments in the comments. Maybe you can point out something wonderful that I missed.


47 thoughts on “Yes, you’re too hot… but please stop.

  1. OMG! I can’t believe youtube worked on my tablet, #1, and #2, I can’t believe I watched that a 2nd time & actually LIKED it!!! Maybe it was that handsome hunk beguiling me with that “Can I call you Dinner?!” smile of his ❤ Anyway, his voice is wonderfully perfect as usual, just like him *gush gush gush* ❤ 😀

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  2. Yes, I agree the video is quite lame. This is one of the 2 songs off of The Lace which I don’t really care for. “That’s the way” doesn’t float my boat either. It is hard not to like anything that Ben was involved with.

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  3. Re-read this and had a good laugh as your warm humor softens the blow that is this thing. I think you and i have a pretty good idea whose fault this video was. LOL Dear Ben – we still love you!!

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    1. Yes, prancing around awkwardly on stage with no instrument to play was NOT Ben’s style. I felt really bad for him as I watched that video 😢 As far as who’s responsible for this tragic lapse in judgement, ahem… are you referring to a person who was personally and professionally involved with Ben’s creation of The Lace? I AGREE!

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  4. Bless his heart!
    So some of the 80’s music and fashion wasn’t my thing. I suppose this video is quite dated now and gawd how most of those bouncy pop songs of the era got on my nerves!
    But Benjamin looked very fine an gave it a terrific effort
    Why, oh WHY couldn’t he be playing Bass in this?
    That was when he was in his element!
    Not prancing around makin hoe-down moves with his arms!
    Gotta give it to him; if not for the boots, fake-looking golden skin and peppy awkward dancing; he definitely looked fit, trim and gorgeous.

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  5. Oh wow, I thought I was the only one to intensely dislike this dopey video. After only a few regrettable seconds of viewing (don’t know how I lasted that long) I shut it down, crying “why Benjamin, omg why?! “ No dancing for you!

    But just like you Donna, I managed to move past this hot mess and just love him no matter. All is forgiven 😂

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  6. Only you can say “…I am head-over-heels, crazy in love with Benjamin, completely immersed in his legacy, and totally obsessed with his life” and not come off as batshit crazy! We’re all jealous of you for that. ❤

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  7. I feel just like you ,it’s embarrassing to watch.I did read an article but have not been able to find it again that the mood was very tense on the set,even Greg & David were not very happy with it. The reason given was that Benjamin had been drinking fairly heavily around this time in his life and it was fairly apparent when he he turned up for the recording. Has anyone else seen this article? That said, no one is perfect but he comes very close,so we so much else to enjoy about Benjamin Orr, one corny video doesn’t dim his star .Love reading your comments Cheers

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  8. Totally agree! I remember thinking it was even a little embarrassing when it came out, and everything was embarrassing in the 80s! But it was the wrong kind of embarrassing. Hair metal was on its way in and I guess TPTB wanted Ben to try to compete with that, when he didn’t need to compete with anyone. I don’t know how anyone could look at the “Stay the Night” video and then follow it up with something like this. I have a dream that his second single was either “In Circles” or “The Lace,” featuring a much more appropriate romantic concept or something. Oh well.

    I think about his comments in that MTV interview when he said how much he enjoyed making the STN video and how the crew listened to his ideas, etc. I can’t help but think that wasn’t the case this time around. Maybe they should’ve just done a Star Trek spoof video…at least he would’ve had a lot more fun doing that. The USS Benterprise. 😄

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    1. Hahaha — “The USS Benterprise” — I love it! And I completely agree with you. The difference between STN and 2H2S is tragically obvious! I just have to shake my head (because I’m certainly not going to watch it again unless I have to. LOL).

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  9. Digging David’s bouffant hair and Greg’s dancing at the keyboard and wonder if they’d done a spoof video following the real take if it would’ve been better as lighthearted fun? That said Ben is super hot in fitted pleather, has great moves when he’s moving naturally to the beat, has great legs and definitely is in shape at this point in time with that tiny waist superbly accentuated by that wide belt he’s wearing…
    A markedly different look from the Viele’s Planet gig several years later.
    Hmm, SPJ, I’m felt your pain as I watched this!

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    1. Thank you for pointing out some of the (few) redeeming aspects of this video! I need to remember to ask Greg when we do part 2 on the podcast with him to tell us about this project. I’m so curious to hear his take on it. 😉

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      1. It would be gratifying to learn his thoughts about this shoot – what he’d share about it that is! 😉
        He and David were discreetly blank-faced while the rest of the musicans were going thru the motions, imo.
        Hope Greg has memories to share in the future!

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  10. Really completely agree with you on this. Even before I found your blog, I felt that same embarrassment. It just didn’t fit with all the other images I’d seen. The make-up actually makes him look different–and this is a guy that wore make-up, and changed up his look a lot–at least professionally. I wonder if it maybe affected things in the future for him? Maybe too much to put on a video……But, yeah, in the end it’s still a guy we all appreciate, so not a huge deal.

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  11. This post has me laughing hysterically! You are hilarious! Annnnnd…I agree with you 100%.

    I’ve been gradually making my way through your blog posts and podcasts. I have A LOT of catching up to do, but I’ve learned a lot about The Cars and Benjamin through you. I want to let you know I appreciate what you’re doing! ❤

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  12. File under open minded . Ben was a musican and performer . This video reeks mostly of the bad advice and MTV eras desire to get the biggest artists on no matter what. Poor Ben. SPJ a great commentary and ?…You have my undying gratitude on this one . B.B.

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  13. Hello, I’m Ellie, and I’m a new fan of Benjamin and I have to say I love your blog! It’s so cool and amazing that you keep his memory alive in this way. Now, as for Too Hot To Stop…yes, I think he is VERY hot in this one, I love his hair, his eyes and his clothes, he looks very youthful and sweet, but I am not that much of a fan of the song. My fav look for him (he looked amazing all the time though) has to be Live Aid..he just oozes cool at that concert. ❤️

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      1. Funnily enough it came up on my YouTube feed the other day. I started watching it and . . . Just No! But I guess we all make mistakes! Someone give Ben back his bass! He was a bit lost without it. Ah but we still love him!

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  14. Oh my. This video just popped up on my youtube feed. I had to take a break after the first few seconds and steel myself to continue watching. With the sound off. Luckily, towards the end, it did veer into “so bad it’s good” for me. Glam Ben is my favorite Ben, so I think I’ll be able to put the cheesiness out of my mind and keep the memory of that lovely fit body in tight leather. As you wrote, SPJ, you can’t unzip that jacket far enough …

    But it does make me sad for what could have been. I’d like to think that, with his immense musical talent and charisma, he could have been a very successful solo performer. But maybe his personality made him more suited to being a part of a band without the pressure of carrying the entire project.

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    1. I agree with you. On the one hand I feel like we were deprived of so much more from him by way of sharing his amazing talents, but then it does seem he was not geared toward perpetuating a solo career. As Joe Milliken said, it seemed like Ben was on the rise again with Big People; they had an amazing energy together… and then it was over. It’s just such a shame! My heart aches.

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  15. Lol! Brilliant Ellie! I love being immortalised in a Cars song!!
    Just reading back over some of the posts and I must say I agree with the comments that it would have been better if the video was a spoof. I mean – it was already halfway there and would have been far less painful. At least it would have been properly funny. As it is, it’s almost funny while not trying to be, which is never good.

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  16. So glad I’m not the only one who cringes at this video. Our sweet man looks so out of his element. Definitely needs a bass to stand behind. However….Ben in that leather?? Unbelievably gorgeous! I will add my name to the chorus of people here asking him to unzip that jacket just a little more, please…that sexy chest gives me heart palpitations. Ben in tight leather = swoon!!!

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