I’m honored to get to publish this poignant tribute to Benjamin Orr, written by a woman who was deeply moved by the reality of who he was. Thank you for sharing with me, Cathy, and for bringing me to a closer understanding of our beloved Benjamin.
Life Goes By
Life goes by and in a moment it is gone.
Benjamin Orr died today.
Actually it was two days ago, but it was in this morning’s paper
It was a shock to see, even though I knew it was coming.
I spoke of his untimely death on Tuesday in fact.
I’ve been told that I will inherit a ring he designed for a lady love,
Upon her death.
She is my friend.
It is because of her that his death should even touch me, but it does.
She is also the reason that for a brief moment in time
Our lives intertwined.
I was a young kid in my early twenties and he was a rock star.
(in a band my boyfriend even liked!)
But he was her boyfriend and so I tried to treat him as such.
The gold records hung on his home studio walls
as he and I sat there and conversed.
I asked him about Mick Jagger after he mentioned him first.
I was a bit taken back as he replied, “He is just a person”
or something to that effect.
I realized at that young age from him that day
That I should always remember that a celebrity is a person.
My friend and Ben took Spike and me
Out on Ben’s boat.
Actually we never left the Charlestown dock.
He gave me a Cars shirt and a bottle of champagne.
The four of us sharing an afternoon in the sun.
I can’t recall what birthday it was…
But it was a moment in time I will never forget!
Not because he was a celebrity,
But because to a twenty something year old kid
He took the time to show her that he was a person
Just like the rest of us.
Now twenty something years later I’m older now than he was then
I think I understand what he tried to teach me that day
I did get it.
But even now I know what I felt then
I had touched a star!