Lyrics: Do You Know What It Feels Like

Do You Know What It Feels Like (written by Benjamin Orr and John Kalishes ©1993)

 

No surprise, I got your call; there’s no regrets, we’ve said it all

Do you know what it feels like?

Guess you can’t go back again, so very hard to watch you act, my friend

Do you know what it feels like?

And so… a time to let go and see how it flows without you.

 

You lose a lead, a broken car, you drop a beat and there you are

Do you know what it feels like?

It’s said and done, now I’m the one who pulls the strings so dance for me

Do you know what it feels like?

And so… a time to let go and take to the road without you.

 

You know your looking glass has frozen me

And you know I’m not where I used to be

The tables have turned and the bridges have been burned

 

So in the end the truth rings true after all I’ve learned from you

Do you know what it feels like?

And so… it’s time to let go and see how it flows…

And so… I take to the road and see how it goes without you

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I found a couple different versions of this song; the lyrics I typed here go with this recording below. The image in the video is deceptive; this is *not* a Milkwood song.

Here’s the other studio recording I found; some slight variations in the lyrics:

 

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30 thoughts on “Lyrics: Do You Know What It Feels Like

    1. Sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner — glad you got it figured out!
      Yes, it is my belief that this song is about the end of his friendship with Ric. There are several lines that really seem to point to it. Breaks my heart… but I am optimistic that Benjamin didn’t hold a grudge until the end; I think he was really a peacemaker at heart.

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      1. Perhaps we should or could surmise Benjamin was not an aggressor but a non-violent pacifist type. Problem is, while he may not have openly shown any acrimony or bitterness, his pain at the loss of his band,may have been turned inward and manifested in self-destructive or pain driven actions. My heart breaks for him. The break-up of the Cars destroyed him, I believe.
        I must say post Cars saw him writing some very, very good songs, whether on his own or in collaboration w/ Kalishes. “I AM” is a brilliantly constructed & powerful song!

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      2. I read somewhere that he told one of the big people band members that he was at peace with the world. This was said about a year before he passed.

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  1. hey D!
    While I am here, does your info corroborate w/ mine that it was Benjamin who engineered or suggested the band get together for that last interview before he died?
    I know I read it somewhere but don’t know the facts & details of how that reunion came about..
    ~p
    aka
    moodylicious

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    1. You know, I do think I read that, too, that it was his suggestion. I find it really difficult to get info about that interview; I can’t even find the exact date! I’ll continue to keep my eyes out for the details. Let me know if you come across anything more?

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  2. okay, so I conducted a little search to satisfy our burning curiosity and need for fact. I forced myself to watch some of that last interview. I also read a June 9, 2011 Rolling Stone article and found that the interview happened in Atlanta. It was June of 2000. Brett Milano was the off-screen interviewer.
    The RS article I reference was written by David Fricke.
    The reunion interview was to be included on the DVD. As we know Benjamin lost his fight with Cancer on October 3 of that same year.
    I had only seen 5 minutes of that interview, as it was too painful to see Ben ravaged that way. I wanted to remember him as the vital, strong, beautiful human he was when healthy.
    So, anyway, I listened up to some of Part 3 and LOST IT!!!. I am afraid some of my pent up emotion about Ben’s unrealized international legacy sprang forth and I said some things on the subject.
    I don’t think I’ll watch the rest of it. No, on second thought I WILL. I need to see if Ric ever says what he has never said before. And that would be, “Thank you! Thank you Ben for your enormous contribution to our band. Thank you for sharing the amazing gift of your wonderful voice and thank you for lighting of the stage like a beacon and sharing your cool badass stage presence with us and the world. I owe you a debt of gratitude, cos I doubt I would have been as successful as I am today without your contribution to our band.
    Love ya, man”

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  3. Love this song! Does make me feel sad though if it’s about how he felt at the end of The Cars and his musical partnership with Ric. Wish he’d felt more confident about his songwriting ability because he clearly had the talent and we may have had the privilege of a second solo album. Very much looking forward to Joe Milliken’s book

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    1. Thanks for commenting! It’s hard to say… there is so much that we don’t know about what went on behind the scenes. I choose to believe that whatever they went through for all of those years, amends were made before Benjamin died.

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      1. Is this song available to purchase. I remember reading that Rid stated he started to drink pretty heavy. Also Benjamin asked Rid if Diane could write some music for the cars and he said no. I read that Rid did not like her.

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  4. does so always break my heart to listen to this song. men have so much trouble talking to each other about emotional stuff. im glad Ben was able to convey his feelings in this song. i hope Ric listened to it alot and realized the amazing friendship he had from Ben. not too many people have a friend in their lives who is so true. i read Ric said some things not to nice regarding Ben in an interview not too long after Ben died. dont know what he said because the person on you-tube never wrote what Ric actually said. I can only say, shame on you Ric Ocassek, if that is true, seems to me Ben loved you like a brother and you tossed him aside. in my mind Ric writing Silver after Ben died was cowardly, should have told his friend he loved him while he could still hear it. Ric knew how much Ben loved being in the Cars and Ric broke his heart throwing the band away. its not like Ric got out of the music biz, he just got out of the Cars. to think of Ben having sadness or pain, hurts down to my soul.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree; the reality of Benjamin hurting makes me ache so deeply. The thing I have to keep remembering is that we don’t know all of the details of what happened between those two, before or after the break up. I want to believe that they made amends at the end, and I do know that Ric has spoken very highly and respectfully of Ben in many, many interviews. I like to think that they were at peace with each other.

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      1. I sincerely hope they did too. Like you said, we really have no idea what was said and done between them, takes 2 to tango though so I’m sure it was not all one sided. It’s just when I think of Ben being hurt, even though I didn’t know him, everything I read and seeing him in interviews, I so wish I did. The mother bear thing comes out in me and I get protective, crazy huh, I’m sure you know how I feel. Thanks for getting back to me and keep up the awesome work with your site, we all love it so much.

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      2. Oh believe me, Sherry, I know exactly what you mean. I’m looking forward to Joe Milliken’s book about Ben; hoping it will shed some light on the subject. Thanks again for reading and commenting, and for your kind words about the blog. 🙂

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  5. Hi Sweetpurplejune, you have a picture on the video for “Do you know what it feels like” I just adore that pic of Benjamin but i cant find it any where. do you remember where you got it? i would love to have that one to add to my collection.

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      1. Hi, The picture of Ben is in your archives for May 2017. The pic is on the video after the lyrics for, Do you know what it feels like. The page gives the lyrics for the song then on the 2nd video down, the pic on the video is of Ben alone. I really love it and have not been able to find it any where. if you can find that picture and e-mail it to me, that would be awesome.

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      2. I didn’t know it was a picture of the whole band. On the video of the song you put up for, do you know what it feels like, it was just Ben. Nice pic of the whole band as well. Thanks again.

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  6. Also so excited to tell you I pre ordered Joe Milikens book. It is available on amazon 35$ plus shipping. Have to wait until November 15th, but I’m sure from what I’ve been reading about what Joe has in store for us with his book, it will be so worth the wait! I hate to rush along my summer but I am so looking forward to reading everything about Ben and the Cars and seeing all the wonderful pictures Joe was able to get! I feel like a little kid waiting for Christmas, lol

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      1. I have not followed Joe on Facebook, not much of a fan of Facebook but I will follow him on Twitter. I e-mailed him last night actually to thank him for all his work over the years to put his book together for us all to enjoy. And I also said a few words about how wonderful a photo book of Ben would be as well, if he may want to put that out too, we can hope, and a little pleading never hurts either, lol

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